As some of you may already know, Doreen and I have gone our separate ways and are officially divorced. We concluded about 18 months ago that it was time to do so. It’s evident that this was guided by Spirit and completely purposeful, and as for myself, it became clear early on in the process that it was time to set out on my own path. Since then the interest in what I have to offer has dramatically increased, for which I am very grateful.
In spite of it being spiritually correct, I won’t pretend that it was an ideal or easy separation. There have been some bumps along the way. Although any divorce is best kept a private matter, rumors and speculation abounded as to the reasons why we broke up. The rumors about money in particular are a gross distortion of the complexity and realities inherent in this process that should rightly be a private matter in spite of our visibility.
Being in the public eye of at least a good portion of the spiritual community, there will no doubt be ripples for a while amongst those who know us and our story. Some will judge either one or both of us, yet I trust that should you find yourself judging this in anyway, no matter the source of your information, you will shift as quickly as you can to forgiveness.
If you find yourself doing so, first become aware of the judgment (whether about this situation or any other) identify that judgment and let it teach you. Find the mirror. See what is similar in yourself that you judge. Then state out loud, “I forgive myself for . . .” Then let it go. Use this as a healing opportunity.
We first attempted to do this as quietly as possible, yet recognizing that ultimately the people that knew us as spiritual teachers would learn the truth of our separation. The multiple synchronicities in the beginning of the relationship held us in its sway. Then each of us went on to write about it. Very romantic story. Many idealized us and our relationship, yet throughout we’ve shown ourselves to be far too human, with those kind of imperfections that go along with the exquisite perfection that is inherent in any living being, including us humans.
My intention all throughout the separation process has been to be honorable and fair to us both, and when this is completely resolved I trust I’ll be able to look back on it and know that I stayed on track with these intentions
I will always be grateful for what Doreen contributed to my life and my work, and I’m sure she feels the same way about my contributions. I will always love and respect her, and admire how she has provided hope and inspiration for so many people.
I thank all of you for your support, encouragement, and prayers.